Especially For The Highly Sensitive & Empaths
You have the invite to the biggest event of the year. Let’s face it, it doesn’t even have to be that big to be titled ‘the biggest event of the year’ and you want/need to go. But there’s that little part of you who enjoyed 'hermit mode' during lockdown, or is unsure the extrovert in you that used to thrive in these scenarios has fallen asleep never to be woken again.
I live in Bondi Beach, Sydney, Australia and we are currently in lockdown. We’ve been fortunate enough to only experience two lockdowns here and they were over a year apart. Throughout that time, I attended events with 100s of people - resulting in that exact feeling of, ‘Do I really want to go? Can I handle the excitement and the energy of going?'
As part of my spiritual journey, my senses have heightened, my awareness of connection to the collective has heightened, and I’m more aware than ever of hearing and feeling what everyone is feeling and thinking perhaps more than they even realise.
But this can be exhausting and can affect our mental wellbeing.
I’ll never forget this moment. In a room full of 3,000 people, I was gathering about 150 people together for a team photo. The energy was incredibly high and there were also conflicting ideas, wants and needs and I could not hear my own feelings. The noise was outrageously high but it wasn’t with people speaking.
I didn’t realise until sometime later in a room with my Kundalini Yoga teachers that I was experiencing a highly sensitive and empathic moment and like everything in this world we decide, we choose how we want to experience our life - how we feel, how we live, how we experience. I never wanted that moment again, so I mastered and now enjoy teaching tools.
Preparing for your first few big events of the year? Here's my step-by-step guide to help you strut in with confidence amongst the crowds.
Step one: Let your inner voice decide
When the invite comes to you, tune into your calm inner voice. Sit quietly and accept the inner voice with your heart and not your head. Remember, your ego speaks first and it speaks the loudest. The ego can be sly at best and viscous at worst. When we sit calmly and we meditate or pray or just sit still, the answer from the true essence of who we are will always come through. If you need help achieving this period of calm, try my free 10-minute morning meditation workshop.
Step two: The night before
Getting yourself prepared the night before will help you achieve a calm and relaxed morning. Be sure to:
Pack your bag
Know what you’re going to wear
Research your travel plan
Leave as much time as you can for a blissful morning - for comfortable travel, and for some spare time on arrival.
All of these actions immediately reduce any anxiety or nervousness that may start popping up.
Step three: The morning of
Over the years, my clients have always told me that when they start their mornings with meditation and affirmations and all the wonderful tools that create a blissful morning, their whole day is blissful, easier, less dramatic, more fun, more creative and another level.
Whether you can give yourself 5 minutes or 30 minutes, this time that you connect to you and the higher powers is THE energy and connection that you can take throughout your whole day.
You will not be alone in your concerns or fears because you have connected to your higher self in the morning and that guidance that feeling will be with you for the whole day. It also goes without saying, alongside feeding the mind and soul it is important to feed the body with a nutritious breakfast that nourishes you throughout the morning.
Step four: Consider your boundaries
In the morning, as you take a moment to connect to your beautiful self, you can ask the quiet calm voice - where do I want to place my boundaries for the day?
Ask your heart, not your head the questions - will I be happier if I wear a mask today or will I be happier if I don’t wear one? Will I be happier if I hug people today or feel more comfortable keeping my distance? If a conversation changes to a political topic, will I be happier sharing my thoughts and point of view, or will I be happier excusing myself out of the conversation?
You 100% have the choice in every decision you make. Love is respect, love can have boundaries and the only person that is important is you.
Step five: Find a moment for conscious breathing
The moment just before you enter the event, find a place to take a few moments for you.
Close your eyes, sit up nice and straight with your eye closed, bring your eye gaze upwards and inwards between the eye-brows. Relax your shoulders, release any tension in your face, shoulders, hands and take a conscious breath in, let your belly rise as you do so and fully exhale. Continue to repeat this for a few moments.
You will undoubtedly have thoughts popping up in your head, but just let them go without any stories or judgments. No need to stop the thoughts, but just be aware when they come up and let them go without any attachments. After a few moments of conscious breathing, if it feels comfortable to do so, say a prayer, ask for guidance and support for your day from your guardian angels from God, from your higher self or whoever feels good for you.
You can then finish this moment with a couple of powerful ‘I am…’
‘I am seen’
‘I am in full control of my day’
‘I am respecting me and my boundaries today’
‘I am open to receiving the best day, meeting the best people and having the best conversations today’.
Step six: Walking into the room
You are strutting into that room with your team of light-beings surrounding you. Back straight, shoulders back, light beaming into your crown chakra, feet routed into the crystal earth. Own the crown placed on your head and don’t let it slip for anyone or anything. Breath deeply and intentionally and as you do envisage your aura, magnetic field expanding. Focus on love and radiate love and compassion.
Tips for at the event
Remember, the power is and always will be with you.
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed then remember your tools. You can use conscious breathing and internal mantras whilst in the middle of conversations. If you feel you need to create some space, then you can do that too. If you do, you can close your eyes, reconnect to higher Self, breathe, say a pray and relax before heading back into the room.
If you are at an event that allows you to go outside - do so! Take in some fresh air, even take your shoes off and plant your feet into the ground.
How to Relax Post-Event
Events can be exhausting - physically, socially and mentally - and unwinding is important to avoid the knock-on effect pressured events can have. Here are my top tips for relaxing post-event:
Take a moment to appreciate the joys and wonders of your day
Shower. Wash your body and wash your hair
Have a moment in nature and in the fresh air
Sage yourself and comb your aura with selenite
Diffuse essential oils, I love lavender in the evening
Eat grounding foods, like potatoes (but carbs in general are great!)
Watch something hilarious on tv or have lots of play and fun with your family and friends
I hope you have found this useful. For help in getting your day off to a brighter start, check out my beautiful 10 minute guided sunrise meditation. Click here to get involved!
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